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We all probably have bad ones the phone methods those don’t really serve our loved ones relationships. But those mistakes, like checking social media while we’re together, for example, are completely manageable. On the other hand, a partner’s apparent secrecy about their device may warrant concern.

However, experts often suggest that we should not check other people’s phones if we suspect suspicious behavior, no matter how tempting it may be. However, there are certain signs that one can watch out for in order to make an informed decision.

Couples therapy Jonathan Van Viegen, MA MFT, he recently shared 9 phone habits that he and his wife “didn’t let happen” in their marriage.

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1. Not sharing passwords

Most American couples are accustomed to sharing passwords within a few months of dating. So if there is reluctance to share passwords in a long-term relationship, this could be a red flag.

2. To hide their phones

Think that the saying, “you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to fear” applies here.

3. Putting the phone down

While it’s perfectly reasonable to turn to your phone to escape the barrage of notifications, this might be something you should consider if you suspect your partner isn’t telling the truth. .

4. Moving the body or phone away from you when they are on it

Again, this is not malicious in nature. Maybe this partner is just trying not to get in the way of themselves or their loved one. But it takes on a new meaning if it is combined with these other methods and can create problems.

5. Closing devices or locking the phone when you approach them

This is not widely known, as the person clearly tries to hide his ways.

6. New password change

As someone who has seen my husband get locked out of accounts and have to change his password multiple times, I would argue that there are many simple reasons to change passwords. But again, along with other behaviors, I could see how this might be labeled as a red flag.

7. It’s hot and cold about you touching their phone.

If “sometimes it’s okay, sometimes it’s met with a big reaction,” then you have a red flag.

8. Gets angry or defensive when approached about their behavior

This is kind of a red flag for any issue. Couples should be able to have difficult conversations. In this case, with the need for privacy. If they are aggressively “protected” by it, partners should be careful.

9. Very suddenly protect their phone

If your partner goes from being completely open about sharing their phone to suddenly not wanting you around it, it could be a red flag. Except of course they are trying right now to plan an amazing party for you (again speaking from experience here).

Van Viegen added that even though these rules apply to his marriage, he did not say that everyone should “follow our example – you should do the same. But rest assured that at least some couples in the world don’t put up with these frustrating red flags.”

Resolving Trust Issues in Relationships

In fact, for some couples, it may not be easy to look for red flags and instead look for ways to build, or restore trust. In another video, Van Viegen breaks down three steps to help with that.

1. Focus on Your Desired Future

Instead of clinging to the betrayals or mistakes of the past, imagine a future where people will trust each other again. Imagine what the relationship would be like “when trust is fully restored,” and look for “little signs” that trust is returning, she advises.

2. Recognize Exceptions

“Nothing is always bad. Think about the times when trust was felt, even if it was small or short-lived…By exploring these exceptions, you will save a time in your memory bank where trust was possible-giving you a chance of construction at the time,” Van Viegen writes.

3. Measure Your Progress

Get a clear picture of where your relationship stands when it comes to trust on a scale of 1-10. And keep asking yourself “On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do I trust my partner right now?” and “What would it take to make that number go up just one point?” throughout the process. As with most things, recording progress helps a lot.

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